BI have a secret for you, no matter how amazing and wonderful you are, some people are not going to like you. You are not for everyone. But you need to know that is okay! In fact, it is more than okay. You are unique and wonderful. As long as you examine yourself and like who you are, then continue to confidently be you. As Brené Brown said in her book, Braving the Wilderness,
“Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don’t belong. You will always find it because you’ve made that your mission. Stop scouring people’s faces for evidence that you’re not enough. You will always find it because you’ve made that your goal. True belonging and self-worth are not goods; we don’t negotiate their value with the world. The truth about who we are lives in our hearts. Our call to courage is to protect our wild heart against constant evaluation, especially our own. No one belongs here more than you” (158).
Protect your wild heart. You belong.
Brown tells us to be strong and confident with ourselves by learning how to:
- Set boundaries
- Say what you mean and mean what you say
- Step up
- Be accountable
- Take responsibility and issue meaningful apologies when you’re wrong
- Learn to keep confidences
- Learn how to practice your values even when it’s uncomfortable and hard
- Learn how to give and receive help (149)
Maya Angelou said, “You are only free when you realize you belong no place – you belong every place – no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great” (Brown 26).
The price is high, you have to give up worrying about what other people think. But the reward is great, you will belong to yourself.
Discussion:What are three things you like about yourself?
References: Brown, Brené. Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone. New York: Random House, 2017.